As a coparenting mentor, I specialize in helping high conflict coparents disengage from one another in order to be the best parents they’ve been called to be. This type of high conflict coparenting is also known as parallel parenting.
Why a mentor and not a coach?
My training background provides me with a methodical manner in which to help high conflict coparents (HCCPs). A part of the work is teaching HCCPs that they are responsible for their own behavior.
As a result, my approach is based on the PAUSE method:
P = Parenting independently from your child’s other parent by controlling yourself.
A = Adopting a limited contact approach with your child’s other parent.
U = Using boundaries.
S = Starting to respond rather than reacting.
E = Exiting the high conflict by disengaging your child’s other parent.
Parallel Parenting PAUSE was born from…
A passion to lay out a course of action for others experiencing high conflict coparenting.
It’s pretty easy for me to type those words above now, that wasn’t the case a few years ago.
A few years ago, I thought my writing purpose was to advocate for working women by proving we could do corporate America and still be a Pinterest mom. Not just any Pinterest mom but a mom raising a tween girl.
It didn’t take me long to realize that was not my purpose. In those early writings though, I recognized a common theme: coparenting.
Sounds kinda odd that coparenting would show up in the middle of Pinterest fails!
At one point, I was writing an article on coparenting because of a bad interaction I had with my daughter’s dad. I reached out to Huffington Post and became a contributor, with that coparenting article as my first post.
That post has since been pinned on Pinterest over and over again, parents from around the world began to contact me asking for advice on parallel parenting.
I began to hunger for more information on parallel parenting and soon realized that there wasn’t much out there. Sure, there is plenty coparenting information available. But what about coparents who aren’t at that amicable, civil coparenting level yet?
For us, it’s a task just to say “hi” to your child’s parent without them asking you to provide justification on your need to greet! (ok, I’m kidding>>>or am I?)
I finally answered the right door and began tailoring my articles to parallel parenting.
Congrats to those who are able to make coparenting work!
Congratulations are also due to those who are big enough to acknowledge when coparenting goes wrong and are ready to do something about their situation.
Of course, you can do it! Especially with a mentor like me being a ready shoulder.
I am excited for you, let’s get started:
- Check out the Huffington Post article “5 Reasons Why Parallel Parenting is Better Than Coparenting“
- Get a free copy of the Parallel Parenting Credo
- Sign up for the free 5-day communication email course
- Purchase a copy of Parallel Parenting: Communication 101
- Join the conversation in our private Facebook group
- Get and stay connected with me on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram.